I think it is very telling that your question has drawn a response from an "expert" handyman. With all due respect to Chris, handymen are people that we pay to take care of a task and then leave. No one expects a handyman to provide, for example, emotional comfort for a customer - HE'S A HANDYMAN. Likewise, "shyspy", you should not expect your husband to act as your captive and free handyman. While you might respond that the things on your list are for both of you, in truth they are things that you want done that your husband doesn't care about. Otherwise he'd be doing them. .
My suggestion is that you, without making any implicit or explicit tie-in regarding your list for him, hand him a page of paper with pre-numbered blanks entitled '[my husband's] Wish List, and invite him to fill in tasks that come to mind. My guess is that your husband, like most husbands, is already content with what their spouse does for them. So my question is "Why aren't you?"