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How do I motivate my husband to complete my 'honey-do' list?
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Personally, I don't like the idea that a husband, or wife, is like a dog or a kid that needs to be motivated or given a reward to participate in a marriage. I also question the use of a list--does he leave lists of things for you to do? If so, that's fine, but I would resent it if my partner made me a list like I was a kid with chores. You need to explain to your husband that you need his help to get things done around the house. I tell my husband, when I'm not mad about it, that when things don't get done, it stresses me out. Make sure that you're being realistic with your expectations of another person--have your asked for too much, do you complain when he does do things because they aren't up to your standards? People don't feel helpful when we complain about what they do for us--and it certainly doesn't motivate them to do any more. If he won't help just because he's being a jerk, I suggest going to a counselor.
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