I am sorry to hear that you are having problems with resin from your softener getting into your pipes and fixtures and I would like to assist you. From the description, this sound like the
which is the filter in the bottom of the resin tank, has ruptured and is allowing the resin to escape. You have performed the correct action by bypassing the softener, be sure to unplug it too, if you would like. This is a repairable problem, I will provide you with the highest likelihood of what is needed and links for pricing, you will have to decide if you would like to tackle the job and if it makes monetary sense.
The first thing to remember is that depending how the replacement is done, this can be a messy job, at the very least, there will be some water spilled. The first thing to do is to verify that the Distributor or the tube that makes up the assembly has indeed ruptured. This is nearly a certainty, as long as the machine has been running per normal and there have been no changes to the plumbing. The valve assembly will have to be removed from the softener and then the distributor is removed from the resin tank. There are two ways that people do this. One is to dump the salt out of the outer tank and remove the inner one, then carefully collect the resin (or what is left of it) for later re-use. This can be done by pouring it out or using a
shop vac to vacuum it out (preferred.) The distributor can then be easily removed. The other option is to carefully work the distributor out by blowing air into it and working it back and forth while pulling up on it. Be careful to not snap it off down below.
Once it is out, if the resin was removed, insert the new distributor that has been cut to size and pour the resin back in. If the old one was just worked out, you can now just work the new one back in by applying downward pressure on it and working it back and forth and occasionally blowing into it to loosen the surrounding resin beads. The non-removal of the resin beads is my preferred method, it can be slightly faster and definitely less potential for mess, but it takes finesse and patience.
will be needed and you will also need to replace the resin.
Here is a link to the resin,
this is where it may become a monetary issue and you may want to consider replacement of the unit.
I have included an attached illustration of the parts, taken from the
I would like to assist you further with any other questions that you may have and assist you if you decide to proceed with the repair.